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Middle Spoon by Alejandro Varela

Middle Spoon

A Novel

by Alejandro Varela

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  • Sep 2025, 336 pages
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A whipsmart, blazingly funny novel about heartbreak, unconventional love, and the way society could be, from National Book Award finalist Alejandro Varela.

The narrator of Middle Spoon appears to be living the dream: He has a doting husband, two precocious children, all the comforts of a quiet bourgeois life—and a sexy younger boyfriend to accompany him to farmers markets and cocktail parties. But when his boyfriend abruptly dumps him, he spirals into heartbreak for the first time and must confront a world still struggling to understand polyamorous relationships. Faced with the judgment of friends and the sting of rejection, he's left to wonder if sharing a life with both his family and his lover could ever truly be possible. With a big heart and just the right dose of the anxieties that define the modern era, Middle Spoon reveals the rawness of infatuation while reimagining what relationships, marriage, and family life can look like. Alejandro Varela boldly probes the corners of society in desperate need of change—from taboos around intimacy to the shortcomings of Oscar season, pop culture, and gluten-free food—offering a surprising perspective on the tangled dynamics that shape our lives. Equal parts heart-wrenching and uproariously funny, Middle Spoon is for anyone who has longed, nursed a broken heart, or grappled with love at its messiest.

Please be aware that this discussion guide will contain spoilers!
  1. Middle Spoon offers us a radical reimagination of what relationships and domestic life could look like. What was your initial reaction to the narrator's love life and family structure? Did this book change the way that you view polyamory—or relationships in general?
  2. Did you resonate with the narrator's struggle to cope with his breakup? How does he fight to reach the other side of his grief, and what are some complications he runs into along the way? At what point do you think he finds peace with the way his relationship with Ben has played out?
  3. As he works through his heartbreak, the narrator comes to rely heavily on his support network, which includes his husband, his therapists, his friend Traci, and others in ...
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"The novel explores the beautiful complexity of unorthodox, progressive family dynamics with tenderness and humor in equal measure. A touching yet provocative queer love story about defying societal expectations." —Kirkus Reviews

"[A] refreshingly candid tale of modern love." —Publishers Weekly

"Nothing gets away from Alejandro Varela; every thought and detail, emotion and memory is taken apart to the atoms. The result is obsessive, explosive, heartbreaking, funny, and brilliant. Middle Spoon subverts the ordinary novel with intelligence and vulnerability, and with its arias of love and choruses of doubt, Varela has made a sly, analytical opera of the heart." —Andrew Sean Greer, Pulitzer Prize–winning author of Less and Less Is Lost

"What a rollicking delight! In capturing the pain of heartbreak through the lens of a neurotic narrator, Alejandro Varela asks provocative questions about the shape of family and the nature of love. Not only does he pull all that off, but he does it in the epistolary form while digressing into political theory, quantum entanglement, and gay nightlife; and proving frequently hilarious. A triple-axel of a novel." —Ada Calhoun, New York Times−bestselling author of Crush

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Alejandro Varela

Alejandro Varela's (he/him) debut novel, The Town of Babylon, was a finalist for the National Book Award. His short story collection, The People Who Report More Stress, was one of Publishers Weekly's best works of fiction in 2023, a finalist for the International Latino Book Awards, and longlisted for the Aspen Words Literary Prize, The Story Prize, and the PEN/Jean Stein Book Award. Varela, who is based in New York, is an editor-at-large of Apogee Journal and holds a master's in public health from the University of Washington.

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