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How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! by Dr. Sal Severe

How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!

by Dr. Sal Severe
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  • First Published:
  • Jul 1, 2000, 272 pages
  • Paperback:
  • Jul 2003, 288 pages
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Children learn what they live...your children do as you do." Instead of focusing on what children do wrong, this book teaches parents what they can do right.

Dr. Sal Severe maintains that "children learn what they live...your children do as you do." How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! is based on his belief that a child's behavior is often a reflection of the parents' behavior. Instead of focusing on what children do wrong, this book teaches parents what they can do right, by focusing on the positive--reinforcing the good behavior instead of criticizing the child, being consistent--not giving in to misbehavior just to placate the child, and being more patient--recognizing that children operate on a different time schedule. Based on stories, ideas, and solutions from the more than 20,000 parents who have attended Dr. Severe's workshops, How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! is a book that will entertain, comfort, and make parenting simpler and more enjoyable.

Dr. Severe has spent the last 25 years working with behavior disordered children, as a teacher, counselor, principal, school psychologist, and director of special education. In How to Behave So Your Children Will,Too!, he combines expertise with his own brand of practical, easy-to-follow advice that teaches parents how to be consistent, manage their anger, prevent arguments and power struggles, and make discipline simple, making their lives easier. In the 1960s, Dr. Spock revolutionized the way parents raised their children. Now, Dr. Sal Severe is destined to become the next guru of child-rearing for parents, grandchildren, and children.

First published around April 1997. Republished in 2000.

Chapter 1
How Successful Parents Behave

Whenever I am asked if my children have ever done something I was unprepared to handle, I tell this story. Anthony was almost three years old when my spouse became pregnant. We knew it was vital to prepare him for the arrival of a new baby. We wanted to avoid the dreaded effects of sibling rivalry. We read the Berenstain Bears New Baby book a dozen times. We did everything imaginable to make him feel that our new baby was also going to be his new baby. As Mom's tummy began to grow, Anthony kept a little doll tucked beneath the front of his T-shirt.



Leah's birth fascinated Anthony. He was so excited. Nearly everyone who brought a present for Leah brought one for him. It was like Christmas in May. He loved his new sister, even though he noticed that she did not have any teeth. Everything was going just as we had planned.

On Leah's sixth day home, it happened. Anthony hopped out of the bathtub. His rosy skin smelled ...

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The New York Daily News
This book gives parents the confidence they need to practice self-discipline, patience, and constancy in order to raise well-behaved children.

Author Blurb Jack Canfield, New York Times Best-selling Author, Chicken Soup for the Soul.
I found this to be a very valuable book. It has helped me immensely with my children.

Author Blurb Jack Canfield, New York Times Best-selling Author, Chicken Soup for the Soul.
I found this to be a very valuable book. It has helped me immensely with my children.

Author Blurb John Bradshaw, New York Times Best-selling Author, Bradshaw On The Family
This book speaks to the heart of the family system-the parents. Parents must behave so their children will, too!

Author Blurb John Bradshaw, New York Times Best-selling Author, Bradshaw On The Family
This book speaks to the heart of the family system-the parents. Parents must behave so their children will, too!

Author Blurb Neil Aaron, M.D., F.A.A.P. Pediatrician
This book is concise yet comprehensive. My wife and I use the ideas with our own children. The techniques work. Whenever a parent asks me about child misbehavior, this is the book I recommend.

Author Blurb Neil Aaron, M.D., F.A.A.P. Pediatrician
This book is concise yet comprehensive. My wife and I use the ideas with our own children. The techniques work. Whenever a parent asks me about child misbehavior, this is the book I recommend.

Author Blurb Robert Brooks, Ph.D. Diplomate in Clinical Psychology Faculty, Harvard Medical School Author, The Self Esteem Teacher
Your book is wonderful. Not only does it contain a wealth of very sensible and realistic information about parenting but, in addition, your style of writing makes it a pleasure to read. Your respect for children and parents is apparent on every page as is your warmth and sense of humor.

Reader Reviews

Alana Tappin

Excellent book for anyone who's has difficulties getting their children to cooperate. I used it with my much younger brother and I appreciate the spirit of wanting to do the right thing my brother now has, instead of him just doing what I say. This ...   Read More
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This book was the worst book on the planet. Terrible does not do anything. How do people read this garbage. I like my child just the perfect little way she is and I should just agree with her more or read a stupid little book about it!

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