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That's Not How It Happened by Craig Thomas

That's Not How It Happened

A Novel

by Craig Thomas

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  • Nov 2025, 320 pages
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From the Emmy-nominated co-creator and Executive Producer of How I Met Your Mother, this smart, funny, bighearted novel for fans of Kevin Wilson and Monica Heisey, follows a family turned upside down after Hollywood decides to make a movie version of their lives.

Paige didn't set out to be a stay-at-home mom, but when her husband's screenwriting career took off right before they had a son with Down syndrome, the decision was made for her. Now, with their children nearly grown and unsure what's next, Paige writes a memoir about the challenges of raising a child with a disability. When a major actress-turned-producer shows up at her door eager to make her "inspiring" story into a movie, she's shocked, excited, and a little terrified.

This movie just might be the comeback opportunity her husband, Rob, desperately needs. His career has fizzled in recent years. But the movie is going to need a screenwriter, and who better to adapt his wife's memoir than him?... Meanwhile, their son, Emmett, doesn't understand why people think his Down syndrome is the most important thing in his life (that's definitely his girlfriend, Amy)—but he hopes his newfound fame might somehow get him closer to meeting his idol, Eddie Vedder. Their daughter, Darcy, couldn't care less about the whole thing because she's hardly even in their mom's book. The "normal" child who nobody ever worries about is feeling more forgotten than ever as her love life implodes and college decisions loom.

As their lives are chewed up and spit out by the Hollywood machine, triggering old resentments and launching new betrayals, will any of them even recognize the "inspiring" family in this film? Or will this "feel-good" movie be the end of them?

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"A heartfelt dramedy of marriage and the film business...This well-rounded narrative crackles with life." —​Publishers Weekly

"That's Not How It Happened is a funny and poignant novel about family and disability and the madness that ensues when real life gets turned into a Hollywood movie. Craig Thomas is a big-hearted, empathetic writer who knows his characters inside and out, and understands that a family's story is a collective project, a chorus that includes everyone's voice." —Tom Perrotta, New York Times and USA Today bestselling author of Mrs. Fletcher and The Leftovers

"That's Not How It Happened is a great portrait of a great family. As hilarious, honest, and empathetic as Craig Thomas himself. By showing us the McConnell family in all their trials, tribulations, and triumphs, he shows us our own." —Stephen Chbosky, New York Times bestselling author of The Perks of Being a Wallflower and director of Wonder

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That’s Not How It Happened is a pitch perfect family story about how everyone may live the same life events, but see them so differently. It’s a book with all the feels. Paige is a stay at home mom to two kids, one of whom has Downs Syndrome. Darcey, the “normal” child is the forgotten child in the equation. Her husband was a successful screenwriter but lately has been reduced to being a college professor. When she writes a memoir about her experiences with a neurodivergent child and the challenges involved, a Reese Witherspoon styled actress options the book. And that’s when the fun begins.

The book switches between all four POVs. Mistakes are made by all concerned. I felt for all four MCs, their character flaws were totally realistic. Even when they acted like asses, you understand why. There’s lots of humor, although a lot of it is of the groan, not laugh, variety. The book moves at a brisk pace. There are no down or slow periods. I was continually surprised by the twists Thomas threw in.

Craig Thomas was co-creator and executive producer of How I Met Your Mother, so he knows a thing or two about Hollywood and creating shows. His son has Jacobsen Syndrome, so he also knows a thing or two about raising a child with developmental issues. This would make a great book club selection, especially when you want something meaningful but not dark.

I listened to this and that is definitely the way to partake. There is a full cast, which includes Cobie Smulders and Josh Radnor from HIMYM, and each narrator is perfect. Kevin Iannucci, who voices Emmett, deserves special praise.

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Craig Thomas

Craig Thomas is the co-creator of the Emmy-winning comedy series How I Met Your Mother. His prose has appeared in The New Yorker, The Boston Globe, McSweeney's, and The Iowa Review. He lives in New York City with his wife, Rebecca, his daughter, Celia, and his son, Elliot, whose unique journey has had a huge impact on his life and work. That's Not How it Happened is his first novel.

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