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Men Have Called Her Crazy by Anna Marie Tendler

Men Have Called Her Crazy

A Memoir

by Anna Marie Tendler

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  • Aug 2024, 304 pages
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A powerful memoir that reckons with mental health as well as the insidious ways men impact the lives of women.

In early 2021, popular artist Anna Marie Tendler checked herself into a psychiatric hospital following a year of crippling anxiety, depression and self-harm. Over two weeks, she underwent myriad psychological tests, participated in numerous therapy sessions, connected with fellow patients and experienced profound breakthroughs, such as when a doctor noted, "There is a you inside that feels invisible to those looking at you from the outside."

In Men Have Called Her Crazy, Tendler recounts her hospital experience as well as pivotal moments in her life that preceded and followed. As the title suggests, many of these moments are impacted by men: unrequited love in high school; the twenty-eight-year-old she lost her virginity to when she was sixteen; the frustrations and absurdities of dating in her mid-thirties; and her decision to freeze her eggs as all her friends were starting families.

This stunning literary self-portrait examines the unreasonable expectations and pressures women face in the 21st century. Yet overwhelming and despairing as that can feel, Tendler ultimately offers a message of hope. Early in her stay in the hospital, she says, "My wish for myself is that one day I'll reach a place where I can face hardship without trying to destroy myself." By the end of the book, she fulfills that wish.

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"Devastating…In a sea of mental health memoirs, this stands out." —Publishers Weekly (starred review)

"An intensive, conversational portrait of one woman's battle with mental illness…The author's calm, affable narration belies the seriousness of her condition, and the striking detail she provides offers readers a clear sense of the rigorous inpatient psychotherapy process meant to disarm anxiety and return a sense of normalcy. While Tendler admits that her condition is a lifelong struggle, the book ends on a hopeful note, with the author on the path to maintaining a happy, structured life." —Kirkus Reviews

"Equally evocative and devastating." —Wilson Wong, New York Times Book Review

"A stunning self-portrait of a woman trying to make sense of the misogyny and sexism she has faced throughout her life." —Shannon Carlin, TIME ("25 New Books You Need to Read This Summer")

"By reclaiming her story, Tendler questions the unreasonable expectations placed on all women in the modern era." —W Magazine, "The Best, Most Talked About Books of 2024 (So Far)"

"Men Have Called Her Crazy is so many things I didn't know I needed: a testament to the work of healing, a raw howl of anger, and an indictment of misogyny's insipid, predictable, infuriating reign." —Carmen Maria Machado, author of the National Book Award finalist Her Body and Other Parties and the Lambda Literary Award winner In the Dream House

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Anna Marie Tendler

Anna Marie Tendler is an artist and writer. She holds a master's degree in costume studies from New York University. She lives in Connecticut with her three cats, Chimney, Moon, and Butter.

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