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All Friends Are Necessary by Tomas Moniz

All Friends Are Necessary

A Novel

by Tomas Moniz

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  • Jun 2024, 288 pages
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Tomas Moniz—a finalist for the PEN/Hemingway and Lambda Literary awards—delivers a commanding new story about the power of friendship, community, and the families we create for ourselves.

Efren "Chino" Flores has just moved back to the Bay Area from Seattle, jumping from sublet to sublet. In Washington, he was a beloved middle school biology teacher with a loving wife and a child on the way until a stunning loss changed his life. Now he's working temp jobs and struggling to put himself back out into the world.

But there to nurture Chino is a coterie of new and old friends and lovers who form a protective web around him. Closest to him are Metal Matt, a red-haired metalhead with a soft spot for Courtney Love and a rangy dog named Sabbath, and Mike and Kay, a couple whose literary edge is matched only by the success of their secret OnlyFans account. As Chino begins to date more men and women—and to open himself up again to love—his bonds with other people grow both rich and profound. Like a fern blooming in the wake of a forest fire, new life comes after even the most devastating upheaval.

With gorgeous, heartrending detail and a seemingly infinite catalogue of tender, unexpected interactions, Tomas Moniz has created a striking mosaic of desire and belonging. An anthem to both queer and platonic love, All Friends Are Necessary evinces the wonder of friendship and the joy of giving yourself up to the essential force of community.

Please be aware that this discussion guide will contain spoilers!
  1. Generally, in movies and fiction, adult friendships are seen as less important as we age and enter relationships and begin families. Does this reflect your experience? Why or why not?
  2. How would you characterize the different portrayals of friendship in the novel? How do Efren's friendships evolve throughout the book? How have your own friendships evolved throughout your life?
  3. From the sexy scene involving spaghetti to the moment of desire that centers on the uvula, discuss the representation of desire in the book.
  4. In many ways, the novel is a love letter to the Bay Area. Discuss the book's various settings and how they impact the story and its themes.
  5. Part of the book takes place during the pandemic. How does ...
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"[B]ighearted and introspective...Moniz's thoughtful narrative demonstrates the reparative power of friendship, and how it can even transcend the bonds of love. Readers will be entranced." —Publishers Weekly

"A thoughtful, tender, if somewhat earnest tribute to the joyful minutiae that sustain us." —Kirkus Reviews

"Tender and open-hearted, sexy and messy and deeply human. I absolutely love this novel." ―Nina LaCour, author of Yerba Buena

"Vibrant, alive, and absolutely devastating in its beauty, All Friends Are Necessary is like a late-night phone call with your best friend—exuberant, confessional, and above all, honest. Cutting to the heart of grief in all its multitudes, one man finds his way back to a new version of self after deep loss. Sexy and subversive, I tore through this book, inhaling line after surprising line, feeling myself want to reach into the pages and be saved too." ―Chelsea Bieker, author of Godshot and Madwoman

"All Friends Are Necessary brings much needed tenderness, beauty, and hope into the world. This splendid and rejuvenating novel will make you feel so full and alive, held and comforted. Tomas Moniz has created joyous companions and a book to cherish for ages. I love these characters and will miss them endlessly." ―Joseph Han, author of Nuclear Family

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Tomas Moniz

Tomas Moniz is a Latinx writer living in Oakland, CA. His debut novel, Big Familia, was a finalist for the 2020 PEN/Hemingway, the LAMBDA, and the Foreward Indies Awards. He edited the popular Rad Dad and Rad Families anthologies. He is the recipient of the prestigious SF Literary Arts Foundation's 2016 Award and the 2020 Artist Affiliate for Headlands Center for Arts. He currently teaches at Berkeley City College and the Antioch MFA program. 

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