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The Wives by Simone Gorrindo

The Wives

A Memoir

by Simone Gorrindo

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  • Apr 2024, 416 pages
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A captivating memoir that tells the story of one woman's experience of joining a community of army wives after leaving her New York City job—a profoundly intimate look at marriage, friendship, and today's America.

When her new husband joins an elite Army unit, Simone Gorrindo is uprooted from New York City and dropped into Columbus, Georgia—a town so foreign she might as well have landed on the moon. With her husband frequently deployed, Simone is left to find her place in this new world, alone—until she meets the wives.

Gorrindo gives us an intimate look into the inner lives of a remarkable group of women and a tender, unflinching portrait of a marriage. A love story, an unforgettable coming-of-age tale, and a bracing tour of the intractable divisions that plague our country today, The Wives offers a rare and powerful gift: a hopeful stitch in the fabric of a torn America.

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  1. "If I have to choose between you and the Army, it's the Army," Andrew tells Simone in a strained moment during their early conversations about his enlistment. Despite her strong reservations about the war and fears for him, she still leaves the job and the city she loves to follow her new husband to the South and support his military aspirations. Discuss how you might have reacted in Simone's position. Do you understand Andrew's decision? How much of your own lifestyle would you compromise for your partner's dreams? Does love necessitate sacrifice? Is the answer to this question different for men than it is for women?
  2. What are the stereotypes attached to an "Army wife" and military families in general? How does Simone challenge ...
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...ans* The Ghostwriter by Julie Clark The Young Will Remember by Eve J Chung (ARC) Non-Fiction: A Flower Traveled in My Blood by Haley Cohen Gilliland* The Wives by Simone Gorrindo Winter: A Story of the Season by Val McDermid And there were a few more I haven't mentioned from my favorite series.
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"A haunting, beautifully written celebration of found sisterhood." —Publishers Weekly (starred review)

"A fearless, engaging, and important memoir…Readers will learn the true meaning of military service through the wider lens of its impact on families and communities." —Library Journal (starred review)

"An intimate memoir of sacrifice and devotion." —Kirkus Reviews

"A moving account of the power of love, trust, and human frailty." —Rachel Louise Snyder, National Book Critics Circle Award finalist and author of Women We Buried, Women We Burned

"Lyrical and poignant. An unforgettable memoir of sacrifice and determination." —Stephanie Land, author of the New York Times-bestselling memoir Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay, and a Mother's Will to Survive

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Gabi_J

5 Star Non-Fiction Read
Enjoyed this memoir beyond expectations. Simone Gorrindo candidly writes of the challenges to fit into the insular military community of Ft. Benning as well as attempting to keep her own indentity while being a Special OPs Army wife, a life where personal choice and home life are secondary to the military and missions. In addition to learning to navigate an unfamiliar military culture, a Southern mindset, and maintain a marriage with a husband in abstentia, she also struggles to reconcile her beliefs and values with her husband’s job.

Honest, vulnerable, well-written.

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Simone Gorrindo

Simone Gorrindo's writing has appeared in The New York Times, New York magazine, Longreads, Los Angeles Review of Books, The Christian Science Monitor, The Best Women's Travel Writing, Self, and others. She holds an MS in journalism from Columbia University, and has received fellowships and grants for her writing and reporting from the International Women's Media Foundation, the Georgia Council for the Arts, and the Hambidge Center for Creative Arts and Sciences. She lives in Tacoma, Washington, with her husband and two children. The Wives is her first book.

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