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The Usual Desire to Kill by Camilla Barnes

The Usual Desire to Kill

A Novel

by Camilla Barnes
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  • Apr 1, 2025, 256 pages
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An often hilarious, surprisingly moving portrait of a long-married couple, seen through the eyes of their wickedly observant daughter—for fans of A Man Called Ove and The Royal Tenenbaums.

Miranda's parents live in a dilapidated house in rural France that they share with two llamas, eight ducks, five chickens, two cats, and a freezer full of food dating back to 1983.

Miranda's father is a retired professor of philosophy who never loses an argument. Her mother likes to bring conversation back to the War, although she was born after it ended. Married for fifty years, they are uncommonly set in their ways. Miranda plays the role of translator when she visits, communicating the desires or complaints of one parent to the other and then venting her frustration to her sister and her daughter. At the end of a visit, she reports "the usual desire to kill."

A wry, propulsive, exquisitely observed story of a singularly eccentric family and the sibling rivalry, generational divides, and long-buried secrets that shape them. This is an extraordinary debut novel from a seasoned playwright with a flare for dialogue and, in the end, immense empathy.

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  1. Camilla Barnes unites comedy with pathos in this hilarious, heartfelt tragicomic novel. The provocative title, The Usual Desire to Kill, sets the stage for the marriage of humor and high emotion. How does the title reflect the book's themes or characters' inner and outer conflicts?
  2. How does the author use humor to balance the novel's heavier themes, such as familial strife, aging, and regret? Can you identify specific moments where comedy provides relief?
  3. How does the theme of familial obligations and expectations manifest throughout the novel? Which character feels this weight the most?
  4. What role does regret play in the novel? How do the characters cope with their past choices and the concept of forgiveness?
  5. There are ...
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Their conversations, full of English wit, are tinged with bitterness—not of fiery conflict but the exhausted, resigned exchanges of people who have stayed together simply because they don't know another way. They are captured through Miranda's observations and the theatre-like scenes in which Barnes showcases her background as a playwright; like Miranda, she also moved from England to France to work in theatre. Unlike her protagonist, Barnes has never been onstage, only behind the curtain: a position that has likely honed her powers of poignant observation. The English humor and lightness of tone make for a deceptively fast read; even sections that are not explicitly structured as scenes read like eavesdropped conversation. But beneath the humor lies a deeper, more melancholic feeling, as if the reader were a child hiding on the stairs, listening to their parents argue below...continued

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Empathetic...intimate...Barnes explores long marriage, sibling rivalry, truths behind shifting memories, and family secrets as well as examining the decisions people make in life, the long-term effects of those decisions, and how well one truly knows the people they love.

Publishers Weekly (starred review)
Playwright Barnes combines humor with pathos in her heart-wrenching debut, the story of an aging British couple's unhappy marriage told mainly from the perspective of their actor daughter...the genius of the novel lies in the ways Barnes highlights how parents can never be fully known to their children, no matter how observant their children are... It's an unforgettable story about the limits of judging others.

Kirkus Reviews
Higher stakes would not have been a bad idea; as it is, the reader waits for something to knock these characters out of their patterns of humoring and needling and misunderstanding each other and it just doesn't come, making for a melancholy denouement.

Author Blurb Monica Ali, author of Love Marriage and Brick Lane
Hilarious and heartbreaking, packed with acute and painfully funny observations about relationships and family dynamics. Barnes's dialogue is pitch-perfect, and her characters dance off the page and straight into your heart. Mum and Dad are magnificent creations, eccentric and endearing, both instantly recognizable and utterly singular.

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The Silent Generation in The Usual Desire to Kill

Green ration book from World War IIIn 1951, Time magazine described the youth of the era in the following terms: "The most startling fact about the younger generation is its silence. With some rare exceptions, youth is nowhere near the rostrum. By comparison with the Flaming Youth of their fathers & mothers, today's younger generation is a still, small flame. It does not issue manifestoes, make speeches or carry posters." This explains why the generation born between 1928 and 1945 came to be known as the Silent Generation, an age cohort characterized by their strong sense of conformism and their traditionalism (another common term for this group is the Traditionalist Generation).

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