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Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

Created: 06/26/15

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Posted Jun. 26, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
davinamw

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Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective? Where do you see examples of that in the reporting of daily news or in your own life?


Posted Jul. 13, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
Hulananni

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RE: Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

This so-called 'culture of honor' is not pervasive in U.S. society. At least not as openly as one would have you believe. Perhaps in very religious societies/areas this would be o but not throughout today's general public.


Posted Jul. 14, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
reene

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RE: Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

I think the idea of "a culture of honor" is slowly becoming a thing of the past. At one time the male was thought to be the protector and defender, but American women have shown that they are ready and able to stand up for what they consider to be fair and just.


Posted Jul. 14, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
laurap

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RE: Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

I believe we call that a "double standard." While it is not as restrictive as the practices described in the book, it is still true that, at least in certain circles, our culture expects different behavior from men and women, particularly with regard to sex. Sexually active guys are admired studs, and sexually active women are "have a bad reputation" at best and are trashy sluts at worst. Things have loosened up a bit since I was a teenager, but the gossip and the trash talking are still there.


Posted Jul. 16, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
sallyh

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RE: Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

I don't think this is all that prevalent in the US any longer. Certainly there is still gender inequality, double standards and misogyny, but I don't believe the "culture of honor" that the author refers to is a big thing here.


Posted Jul. 20, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
lynneb

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RE: Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

Yes, as others have said, we don't really have a "culture of honor" mentality in this country any more but I still think there is a pervasive thinking that girls should be quieter, gentler and pursue more womanly careers. Men are still expected to be more aggressive and direct. I think this still is a part of the generation over age 50. I suspect we will see that less and less with younger generations becoming parents and having different expectations. But how many little girls are still wearing pink and given dolls to play with and boys wearing blue with toy trucks and sanctioned rough play. Even among younger men there is an expectation that girls need protecting and we all like it that way. It might be good manners and a show of respect? But I think just about every girl who has a door opened for her or is allowed to step first out the door would still expect to be allowed to defend her country as a soldier if she chose.


Posted Jul. 25, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
jeannew

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RE: Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

I agree with the others that in our society it's not as serious as a "culture of honor" but there is definitely still a double standard. And I think that while many women resent the double standard we tend to perpetuate it ourselves. We still expect men to ask us out on dates and to propose marriage; women who do those things are looked down upon. So while we can expect men to treat us equally, we must also look to our own behavior to see how/if we're guilty of perpetuating the double standard.


Posted Aug. 01, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
Loveslife

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RE: Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

I do believe there are still pervasive, unequal cultural expectations that exist between men and women in our society. I also think that gender inequality has diminished over time and the active work put in to change laws and beliefs has also helped. The media continues to sell the ideals of female "beauty". Women are depicted in ways that are unrealistic, photo-shopped representations of what is considered desirable. Women are expected to be less aggressive or assertive. I do also agree that women who are sexually active are seen as trashy while men are validated for their sexual activities. Our society does not have the same rigid honor culture of Afghanistan, but I believe that there is work that must be done in the United States and globally to enrich women's lives, the choices they can make, and the depth of opportunities they are presented with.


Posted Aug. 06, 2015 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
enidm

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RE: Do you agree that there is also a "culture of honor" in our society, where girls should be pure and boys should be aggressive and protective?

I am not aware of a "culture of honor", but see evidence of double standard everywhere. The glass ceiling for women. Inequity in pay. Women running for political office are judged by different standards than men. They are criticized for how they look, how they sound, if they have young children can they be a good parent while they are conducting a campaign. And the list could go on.


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