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How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

Created: 01/28/21

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davinamw

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How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish Birch have tried to deal with their trauma?


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ScribblingScribe

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RE: How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

Being a parent helped Kieran understand the loss from a parent's perspective. It broadened his view of the tragedy, but also added to his burden until the truth came out. In the end, he realized that a parent's love forgave him.


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paulak

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RE: How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

Kieran has great empathy for Trish and her burden. He compares her struggle to how he would feel if anything happened to Audrey. (Although I do have to say it made me immensely nervous when Kieran took Audrey to the beach during his morning swims!)

He also demonstrated great patience during the blow-up with his mother and resisted following her anger. I think his giving her space, encouraged by Mia, helped Verity think through the situation and come to a better place.


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linz

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RE: How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

I think he was more caring with his mother, but I'm still stuck on how he left his daughter on the beach alone!! A better parent??


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susiej

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RE: How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

His life with Mia and have a child now has made Kieran more thoughtful about others' perspectives and perceptions - he cannot be as single minded as he once was. He recognizes not only his own parent's pain and loss, but Tish's as well. Having a family and child makes him aware of his feelings and responsibility and joy with and for that family and child. As a result, now he looks more outside himself and can recognize the feelings and pain of others as they deal with their loss.


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acstrine

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RE: How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

I think the most important thing about meeting Mia is that Kieran was finally able to talk to someone about what happened during the storm. Until that point, he was sort of tiptoe-ing around, and his mother and father certainly never gave him the opportunity to air his feelings out loud. By talking with Mia, he unburdened himself of the secrets he was keeping about why he was in the cave. By freeing himself, he was able to be more empathetic to others. He was also more willing to question his reactions to comments, actions, and behavior of others. This continued processing made him LESS reactionary and open to looking at the other side. He allowed himself to be vulnerable and more honest. I think he knew he would not be a good father or husband if he hid his true feelings.


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debrav

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RE: How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

I think Mia saved his life. He was just going through the motions of living before her. Interesting how Jane Harper tied Mia into the story as Gabby’s best friend. One of the things I really like about her novels is the way she ties everything together.


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cindyb

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RE: How do you think meeting Mia and becoming a parent has changed Kieran's perception of how his parents and Trish have tried to deal with their trauma?

I think Mia gave him the opportunity to share his feelings of loss and guilt over his brother’s death without the feelings of judgement and anger he always felt from his parents. Mia also holds him accountable. She recognizes the damage secrets have caused her husband and other. Becoming a parent has broadened Kieran’s understanding of his parents grief. I think it also forces him to look beyond his guilt and focus on someone outside what happened the day of the storm.


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taking.mytime

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RE: How do you think meeting Mia and ...

I think Mia and Audrey gave Kiernan a good solid foundation for manhood. Having gotten some processional help since the tragedy this was the extra he needed to be able to lead a good life. He left Evelyn Bay and was trying to put the past in the past so that it was not consuming his mind on a daily basis. He was able to talk to Mia and she understood having come from the same location and facing some of the same tragedies Kiernan had. His parents and Trish relived those tragedies on a daily basis - never moving any further. Olivia was also pushed back into the past by having to go home and take care of her mother, even though she tried to get out and make a new life for herself. There comes a time when you have to quit grieving - only each person is aware of when that time is - but moving locations and trying to get on with your life is a large part of that process.


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