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The Lovebird


A compassionate and inviting novel about loneliness, heartbreak and finding a ...
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Loneliness - how do you think it influences choices people make?

Created: 07/04/13

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Posted Jul. 04, 2013 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
poniesnpearls

Join Date: 06/28/11

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Loneliness - how do you think it influences choices people make?

I think loneliness sometimes contributes to the choices people make because they want to fit in or belong to something.


Posted Jul. 09, 2013 Go to Top | Go to bottom | link | alert
lisag

Join Date: 01/12/12

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RE: Loneliness - how do you think it influences choices people make?

Definitely, loneliness has an impact on behavior but some people need more socialization than others. If you participated in the 'Quiet' discussion you'll remember a lot of conversation on that topic. Introverts need much less "people time" than extroverts.

I understand being lonely can send some people off the proverbial cliff, if they don't feel wanted or as if they belong. It can be a huge factor.


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rebajane

Join Date: 04/21/11

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RE: Loneliness - how do you think it influences choices people make?

and yet needing less people time and being lonely are two different things. I need a lot less people time than most people but there are times when I feel lonely. And I can be in a crowd of people and still feel that way. I am much more likely to make decisions that are not in my best interest when I feel that way. I have also know people who are lonely gravitate to people who are wrong for them so it definitely influences our choices


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carmen s

Join Date: 04/27/11

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RE: Loneliness - how do you think it influences choices people make?

I think it does influence some people. Some people need people, they need a lot of interaction, some people (myself included) are more comfortable being alone and handle it better.


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rebeccar

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RE: Loneliness - how do you think it influences choices people make?

Thinking about this question in the context of the book, I think Margie was handling loneliness better than the "spell" of physical attraction with the wrong man. There are probably a lot of people who have had some periods of loneliness in their lives without it being debilitating. For people who enjoy reading books, solitude and quiet can be perfectly o.k. with good books. Other people like the background noise of television and prefer lots of people around. It's such an individual thing. It's almost like asking- what's the best place to take a vacation since so much depends on the individual. What is lonely for one may not be for the next. Stereotypical situations of loneliness are better than being with someone who is cruel - as Margie seemed to learn when she was cast aside be her Latin professor/lover.


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