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Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li

Things in Nature Merely Grow

by Yiyun Li

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  • May 2025, 192 pages
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Yiyun Li's remarkable, defiant work of radical acceptance as she considers the loss of her son James.

"There is no good way to say this," Yiyun Li writes at the beginning of this book.

"There is no good way to state these facts, which must be acknowledged. My husband and I had two children and lost them both: Vincent in 2017, at sixteen, James in 2024, at nineteen. Both chose suicide, and both died not far from home."

There is no good way to say this―because words fall short. It takes only an instant for death to become fact, "a single point in a timeline." Living now on this single point, Li turns to thinking and reasoning and searching for words that might hold a place for James. Li does what she can: "doing the things that work," including not just writing but gardening, reading Camus and Wittgenstein, learning the piano, and living thinkingly alongside death.

This is a book for James, but it is not a book about grieving or mourning. As Li writes, "The verb that does not die is to be. Vincent was and is and will always be Vincent. James was and is and will always be James. We were and are and will always be their parents. There is no now and then, now and later, only, now and now and now and now." Things in Nature Merely Grow is a testament to Li's indomitable spirit.

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What are you reading this week? And what did you think of last week’s books? (6/11/2026)
...th. Like most short shory collections, some are good and some are great. It is a glimpse of a culture that I knew nothing about. Last week I finished Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li. I recommended it with extreme caution for anyone grieving as it deals with child suicide. It is beautifully written but I cannot imagine a scenario...
-Anthony_Conty


What are you reading this week? And what did you think of last week’s books? (6/4/2026)
Last week, I finished The Original by Nell Stevens and Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Lee. I really liked the ending of The Original even though some parts dragged on. The ending was something special. Things in Nature Merely Grow, the Pulitzer winner for Memoir/Anthology, is beautifully w...
-Anthony_Conty


What are you reading this week? And what did you think of last week’s books? (5/28/2026)
...failed to hold my attention, but the ending surprised me and seemed perfectly loyal to the characters. It came together so nicely. Now, I am reading Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li and have a feeling it is going to kick my butt. The content matter is intense and triggering, dealing with two suicides. It is beautifully written an...
-Anthony_Conty


What are you reading this week? And what did you think of last week’s books? (5/21/2026)
...are fascinating and I enjoy the mystery but it seems to take a while to make some of its points. Next in the stack, since I am a social masochist, is Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li, which is a memoir about a woman who has two kids die from suicide. It is going to be a tough read for me.
-Anthony_Conty


Pulitzer Prize in books for 2026
...Lepore (Liveright) General Nonfiction: There Is No Place for Us: Working and Homeless in America by Brian Goldstone (Crown) Memoir or Autobiography: Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li (Farrar, Straus and Giroux) Biography: Pride and Pleasure: The Schuyler Sisters in an Age of Revolution by Amanda Vaill Poetry: Ars Poeticas by Julia...
-Anne_Glasgow


What are you reading this week? And what did you think of last week’s books? (4/09/2026)
I finished reading Things In Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li. I have read seven of her other books and talked to her briefly after a reading she gave at the Weisman Art Museum. This book was written after the s...
-Kassapa


2025 National Book Awards Finalists Announced
Here's the list! Which ones have you read? Which are on your radar? Fiction : Rabih Alameddine, The True True Story of Raja the Gullible (and His Mother) Megha Majumdar, A Guardian and a Thief Karen Russell, The Antidote Ethan Rutherford, North Sun: Or, the Voyage of the Whaleship Esther Bryan Wa...
-kim.kovacs


What are you reading this week? (6/19/025)
I'm reading Sleep by Honor Jones and Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li
-Michele_P

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"As bleak as winter fog at dusk, suggesting that one goes on after tragedy only because there's nothing else one can do." —Kirkus Reviews

"Readers who've dealt with their own tragedies will find comfort and understanding here." —Publishers Weekly

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Live for Yourself, Live for Others
The phrase “trigger warning” triggers people in opposite directions. Some think it represents the weak in society, while others shy away from any book that could conjure up unwanted memories. Author Yiyun Li tells people with preconceived notions about suicide to stop reading “Things in Nature Merely Grow” after the first 40 pages, repeating the phrase “There’s no easy way to say this.”

Lit attempted suicide in her youth, and she lost two sons to the same end. To subject anyone to this well-written, pathos-driven piece, you would need to know about their history. I, for one, classify this as I do “Schindler’s List” and “Saving Private Ryan” as a brilliant, emotional work that I may struggle to endure again.

Li has a lot of questions about grammar as it relates to the tragic loss of a child, but they are not the ones that you consider. Are you still a parent if you die or your kid does? These thoughts populate the mind of a grieving parent who needs to move on but must do so at her own pace.

The ending of one’s life brings about many philosophical questions that require deeper thought. Do people actually want to die or just for their pain to end? Is it selfish, even among those who feel like a burden to their loved ones? To answer that, we will say that there are no answers, only empathy for the suffering parents.

The fact that Li finishes this book in a way that not only affirms life but also teaches you why your life is worth living is nothing short of a miracle. I still recommend the novel with caution because I would not dare tell anyone how to grieve. I, for one, will remember that people are counting on my presence.

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Yiyun Li Author Biography

Yiyun Li is the author of six works of fiction—Must I Go, Where Reasons End, Kinder Than Solitude, A Thousand Years of Good Prayers, The Vagrants, and Gold Boy, Emerald Girl—and the memoir Dear Friend, from My Life I Write to You in Your Life. She is the recipient of many awards, including the PEN/Malamud Award, the PEN/Hemingway Award, the PEN/Jean Stein Book Award, a MacArthur Fellowship, and a Windham-Campbell Prize. Her work has also appeared in the New Yorker, A Public Space, The Best American Short Stories, and The PEN/O. Henry Prize Stories, among other publications. She teaches at Princeton University.

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Yiyun Li: ee-yoon lee

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