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Conversations with Friends by Sally Rooney

Conversations with Friends

by Sally Rooney

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  • Jul 2017, 320 pages
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A sharply intelligent novel about friendship, lust, jealousy, and the unexpected complications of adulthood in the 21st century.

Frances is a cool-headed and darkly observant young woman, vaguely pursuing a career in writing while studying in Dublin. Her best friend and comrade-in-arms is the beautiful and endlessly self-possessed Bobbi. At a local poetry performance one night, Frances and Bobbi catch the eye of Melissa, a well-known photographer, and as the girls are then gradually drawn into Melissa's world, Frances is reluctantly impressed by the older woman's sophisticated home and tall, handsome husband, Nick. However amusing and ironic Frances and Nick's flirtation seems at first, it gives way to a strange intimacy, and Frances's friendship with Bobbi begins to fracture. As Frances tries to keep her life in check, her relationships increasingly resist her control: with Nick, with her difficult and unhappy father, and finally, terribly, with Bobbi.

Desperate to reconcile her inner life to the desires and vulnerabilities of her body, Frances's intellectual certainties begin to yield to something new: a painful and disorienting way of living from moment to moment. Written with gem-like precision and marked by a sly sense of humor, Conversations with Friends is wonderfully alive to the pleasures and dangers of youth, and the messy edges of female friendship.

Please be aware that this discussion guide will contain spoilers!
  1. Bobbi tells Frances that she doesn't "have a 'real personality,'" but she insisted it was a compliment. What do you think Bobbi meant by this?
  2. How did your perceptions of Frances and Bobbi as individuals change, if they changed at all? Do you sense their self-perceptions—or egos—changed as well?
  3. Were you surprised by Frances's attraction to Nick? In what ways did their affair and attractions meet or subvert your expectations?
  4. Melissa suggests that Frances' relationship with her own father affects how she views her relationship with Nick. In what ways do the characters' parents shape their views on love?
  5. Frances claims to be "anti-love," and she and Bobbi compare love to a "social value system." ...
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"Conversations With Friends left me entirely baffled, despite its great reviews from elsewhere. It meanders, seemingly without plot or purpose, between deep conversations and affairs to land on a treatise about endometriosis. The writing was not enough to redeem the lack of meaningful story arc." - Francesca Baker

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"Starred Review. In this searing, insightful debut, Rooney offers an unapologetic perspective on the vagaries of relationships ... Throughout, Rooney's descriptive eye lends beauty and veracity to this complex and vivid story." - Publishers Weekly

"Starred Review. A smart, sexy, realistic portrayal of a woman finding herself." - Booklist

"Starred Review. Readers who enjoyed Belinda McKeon's Tender and Caitriona Lally's Eggshells will enjoy this exceptional debut." - Library Journal

"[Sally] Rooney captures the mood and voice of contemporary women and their interpersonal connections and concerns without being remotely predictable…A clever and current book about a complicated woman and her romantic relationships." - Kirkus

"A novelist to watch: An addictive debut, with nods to Tender is the Night, heralds a bright new talent." - Sunday Times (UK)

"An astonishing assured debut." - The Bookseller

"[Sally] Rooney has managed to take something old, the romance novel, and make it new: Frances is a bisexual communist student, allergic to expressing emotion, and her love affair is with a married man, and yet the book makes no attempt to make a moral stand on fidelity or punish its characters for their passions. The effect is, frankly, riveting, and creates a peculiar sensation of danger…An addictive read." - Rufi Thorpe, author of The Girls From Corona del Mar and Dear Fang, With Love

"Sally Rooney's writing is cool, wry and smooth, and gives the reader a sense of being in the lucky position of overhearing not only what fascinating strangers are talking about, but also what they're thinking. I was riveted til the last page."- Emily Gould, author of Friendship

"Fascinating, ferocious and shrewd. Sally Rooney has the sharpest eye for all of the most delicate cruelties of human interaction." - Lisa McInerney, author of The Glorious Heresies (winner of the Baileys Women's Prize for Fiction)

"A contemporary love story so powerful, graceful and honest it left me reeling. [Conversations with Friends] is, by turns, astonishing, heart-rending and perfect; there's not a word out of place." - Luke Kennard, author of The Transition

"Sally Rooney is a writer going all the way to the top. Conversations with Friends features the 21st century, Irish descendents of Salinger's guileless wiseasses brought to life in prose as taut and coolly poised as early Bret Easton Ellis." - Colin Barrett, author of Young Skins

"There's not a beat out of place in Sally Rooney's astonishingly poised writing. Conversations with Friends is the most sophisticated and perceptive novel I've read about relationships in the 2010s." – Gavin Corbett, author of This Is The Way and Green Glowing Skull

"Written with such precision and perceptiveness, full of arid humour and reckless despair, a novel of spine-tingling salience." - Sara Baume, author of Spill Simmer Falter Wither and winner of the 2015 Geoffrey Faber Memorial Prize

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Sally Rooney Author Biography

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Sally Rooney is an Irish novelist. She is the author of Conversations with Friends; Normal People; and Beautiful World, Where Are You. She also contributed to the writing and production of the Hulu/BBC television adaptation of Normal People.

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