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Each of the characters processes grief and trauma differently. Why do you think that is? What role, if any, do you think gender plays?

Created: 06/17/20

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davinamw

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Each of the characters processes grief and trauma differently. Why do you think that is? What role, if any, do you think gender plays?

Each of the characters processes grief and trauma differently. Afra is literally blinded by her grief and Nuri can't seem to accept the reality of his situation. Why do you think that is? What role, if any, do you think gender plays?


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laurap

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RE: Each of the characters processes grief and trauma differently. Why do you think that is? What role, if any, do you think gender plays?

We are all different, so it is not surprising that we respond to grief differently. I do think gender -- particularly cultural expectations regarding what is an appropriate reaction -- plays a role. Nuri would be expected to be more contained, less emotional, and to remain "in charge" as he and Afra traveled to a new situation. It's no wonder his grief payed out less obviously than hers. Afra would be freer to display her grief, which manifested itself through her blindness.


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ScribblingScribe

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RE: Each of the characters processes grief and trauma differently. Why do you think that is? What role, if any, do you think gender plays?

No two individuals process grief the same way. It is personal, based on background, relationship and upbringing. It varies by culture too. In some cultures, I am sure gender can come into play in expressing grief and what is acceptable, but I don't think gender plays a role in how we as humans grieve. It is far too individual for such broad strokes and stereotypes.


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renem

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RE: Each of the characters processes grief and trauma differently. Why do you think that is? What role, if any, do you think gender plays?

I have to agree more with laurap. I just read an article on St. Judes' website where they discuss the grief process by gender and culture. The article does point out differences based on gender but also emphasizes the fact that whether a response to grief is more common to a man or a woman is not as important as recognizing and supporting individual differences.


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ChloesMom

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RE: Each of the characters processes grief and trauma differently. Why do you think that is? What role, if any, do you think gender plays?

In my experience I find women more able to express grief, talk about their feelings, etc.


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momo

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RE: Each of the characters processes grief and trauma differently. Why do you think that is? What role, if any, do you think gender plays?

Everyone processes grief differently but like scribbling scribe said the ability for one to express it might be inhibited by one's culture and expectations within that culture. I think gender can play a role in some cases. Like in the case of the mom who was having trouble producing milk for her newborn.


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