Games to help you get to know each other at your first book club meeting, or when introducing new members
At your first book club meeting, or whenever new people join your reading group, it's important to spend a few minutes getting to know each other. This can be as simple as going around the group taking it in turns to introduce yourself, and possibly saying a few words, such as what you're looking forward to about the book club (if you're new) or the book you've most enjoyed (if you're an existing member). However, this format can be a little intimidating for some so an alternative is to play a game!
You don't need to do any of these activities but the chances are that spending half an hour 'playing games' at the outset will have individuals feeling like they belong in the group faster than if you don't.
The purpose of all the activities is to give people a chance to meet each other and to share information about themselves. Emphasize that (whatever activity you choose) it's meant to be a fun game, not a test, and that nobody will be keeping score!
Pass The Hat
This game is best in groups of about 10 people or less.
Think up one or more questions per person (if the group is large have one question per person, if it's smaller have more). Cut the paper up so that each question is on its own little bit of paper, fold the papers up and put them in some sort of container.
Take it in turns to pull a question out of the hat and answer the question. Once somebody has answered his/her particular question, other people might want to share their own answers.
You'll probably want to set a time limit per question in order to keep things moving along - you don't have to announce this up front, just keep an eye on the time yourself and move things along if necessary.
- What was the first book you remember reading/being read?
- What is your favorite book of all time?
- Which book has left the most lasting impression on you?
- Which book have you read most frequently?
- What books are on your bedside table at the moment?
- Name one book/author that you really can't stand?
- What type of books do you like reading most?
- If you were given $30 to spend on a book today, what book would you buy?
- Where's your favorite place to read?
- Which character in a book do you think is most like you?
- Which character in a book would you most like to be?
- What book do you plan to read next?
- Which literary character would you most like to have a 'significant relationship' with?
Important: The questions above assume that the group who are getting together already consider themselves relatively well read. However, if you're starting a group with people who may not think of themselves as "readers", you might want to consider more generic questions, such as favorite sport, favorite place to visit, person they most admire, etc. This game is intended to help people feel comfortable with each other, not embarrass them by asking questions they're not comfortable answering!
This is a game that you could use at a first meeting or just as a bit of fun at anytime. Thank you to Antoinette for sharing the idea with us!....
We play BookBrowse Wordplay at our book club at least once a month. I type out the "expressions" on index cards and pass them around to the members to guess the meanings. I pass around a grab bag of inexpensive little gives to the winners and tell them to close their eyes and pull out a gift.
Antoinette Ciancarelli - 91 year old leader of "The Page Turners" in Medfield, Ma (a group of 8 spritly, sharp ladies ranging in age from 60 years and up.
If you think that some members of your reading group might feel uncomfortable coming up with a quick answer to a question in front of a group of people that they don't know well (as in Pass The Hat), arrange people in pairs (if there's one person left over, make a group of 3) making sure that, whenever possible, each person is with somebody they don't know. Give each pair a short list of questions (say 5-6 questions from the list above) and 5-10 minutes to 'interview' each other. Have each person report back on what they found out about the other.
This works best for groups of 8 or more. Give each person a copy of the quiz and a pencil; and about 15 minutes to find a person that fits each description, or knows the answer to the question. When the time is up, reconvene the group and have fun sharing the answers.
These questions are ones that I thought up in a few minutes on a Sunday afternoon - I'm sure you can do much better. Aim for about 10 to 20 questions. Use double spacing so that there's room to write down an answer.
For added interest, you could telephone each person in advance and ask them for one interesting fact about themselves - then incorporate these into the questionnaire - see below for examples:
This game can be tailored to virtually any gathering with almost any number of people - for example, a 40th birthday party quiz would ask questions about the birthday girl/boy (e.g. find somebody who can name her favorite color, knows the name of her elementary school, knows her favorite author etc.).
Find somebody who
- Has read a book of poetry in the last year.
- Likes to read in the bath
- Has fallen asleep with a book in their hands recently.
- Reads more than one book at a time.
- Likes to listen to audio books.
- Has been in a book group before.
- Has children.
- Has been married for more than 5 years.
- Will admit to being nervous to be here.
- Moved house in the past 2 years.
- Can quote at least 2 lines from Shakespeare.
- Knows the heroine's name in Wuthering Heights.
- Knows the name of one member of staff at the local library.
- Knows the name of Barbara Kingsolver's first book.
- Can recite a tongue twister (e.g. She sells sea shells on the sea shore.....).
- Drives a red car.
Examples of questions specific to one group member. Obviously you need to create questions relevant to your members...
- Was born in South Africa.
- Plays saxophone in a local band.
- Has a dachshund named Lilly.
- Whose favorite book of all time is The Phantom Tollbooth.
- Etc, etc, etc!
This is a good game for helping people remember each other's names. It works best with about 6 or more people. The object is to say the name of a person across the circle before you move from your spot. After you've said a name, e.g. 'Jack', you walk to Jack's spot. Jack must say a name, 'Tasha',and move to Tasha's spot. Tasha's out if Jack gets to her spot before she calls out a new name.
Works best with about 10 people. Form a circle. The leader might say 'touch blue' and everybody touches that color on a fellow circle member. The leader then might say 'touch red and orange' and you must find red on one friend and orange on another. The leader then say 'touch black and white' etc. etc.