Jill, By vigilant I did not mean passive. Vigilant means watchful, in a defensive sense, maintaining readiness for action. I agree: We need to be prepared to step up and speak out to combat falsehood and prejudice. But always, I would add, speaking with civility and the facts, not sinking to the level of offensive speech we respond to—whether in conversation or in public speech. I have found it useful to ask, “Why do you say that?” and listen first, then reply with specifics and empathy, if possible, making “I” statements (“I feel otherwise because…”not “You’re wrong because…”).
Just planting the seed that maybe there is much more to the subject, that no one has a corner on the truth, but everyone deserves respect, is a step towards relationship-building across the divide. I agree that is essential. I have had a lot of practice in dialogue with people across major differences, as a (retired) teacher, journalist and now at my local senior center. And a lot more success than back in the 60s and 70s when I would let my passion get the better of me. Nobody listens if they feel they are being scolded, put down.
Thanks for your post!