It depends on the woman, the situation, and the observer. While ideally I would like to believe that I am never invisible, I have had occasions when I felt not only invisible, but unheard. Not so long ago, I spoke extensively at a meeting, and people responded to me, only to have the facilitator say to mea few minutes later, "you haven't said a word all night." And one friend my age is fond of saying that we can get away with a lot, and get a lot done, because we are so invisible. In Saloni's case, she may have felt that she had faded into her marriage and her motherhood at the expense of her own identity.