Reading Guide Questions
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When sixteen-year-old Nouf ash-Shrawi goes missing in Jeddah, Saudi
Arabia, her wealthy family suspects that she's run away to the desert to escape
her imminent marriage. Her brother Othman calls on his good friend Nayir to help
find her. However, after ten futile days of searching, it is not Nayir but some
anonymous desert travelers who find her body. Unable to let go of his failure to
help Othman, Nayir determines that he must at least try to find out what really
happened to Nouffor despite the official coroner's report and the family's
desire for privacy, foul play seems likely and the many unanswered questions
refuse to leave him in peace. The search will force religiously conservative
Nayir to face his dearth of knowledge of women and unfulfilled desire for a wife
as he joins forces with Katya, a forward-thinking forensic lab technician who
challenges his opinions, and attempts to discover the secrets of rich, coddled
- Nayir feels obligated to find Nouf as a favor to his friend Othman, and
to the Shrawi family, which has been very good to him. What deeper meaning
does the search for Nouf have for Nayir? Discuss the relevance of the title,
- Finding Nouf tells a moving and mysterious story, but also
gives readers a peek into the world of conservative Muslims in Saudi Arabia.
How do Muslim customs hinder Nayir and Katya in their investigation? How do
these customs help the investigators?
- Nayir's identity is almost entirely contingent on his modesty and
righteousness. Do you think he overdoes it? If so, what might Nayir be
compensating for? How do other Muslims in the novel, both men and women,
seem to feel about his religious conservatism? What do their perspectives
tell you about modern Saudi Arabia?
- In a world that values family and community above individuality, Nayir
seems an independent nation. He feels most at home in the desert or on the
sea, far away from the city and its populace. Examine Nayir's comparison of
the desert with the sea on page 108. What attracts him to each? Why do you
think he prefers these places to the city?
- The task of penetrating the cloistered world of a rich Muslim girl
forces Nayir to face his disappointments as a bachelor and his lifelong
curiosities about women. Raised primarily by his uncle and with little
courting experience, Nayir has had few opportunities for exposure to the
feminine. Find examples throughout the book of Nayir's longing for contact
with, and insight into, womankind. Discuss how his opinions and impressions
change or remain the same by the end of the novel.
- The novel portrays various levels of seclusion in Saudi Arabian culture.
Identify the ways in which people and groups are cut off from one another,
both literally and figuratively, and examine how these imposed structures
and traditions affect people's opinions of, and interactions with, one
- On page 110, Nayir muses about the confession he's just obtained from
Muhammad: Nouf was planning to abandon her husband in New York and make a
life in America. He thinks, "She had died in the desert, but her running to
America would have been another kind of death." What does he mean? What is
it that disturbs him most about Nouf's secret plans?
- When Nayir meets paper-artist Juliet at the American Ladies of Jeddah
meeting, he is both painfully uncomfortable and deeply intrigued. How do you
feel about his interpretation of her? What was it like for you to see
American culture, particularly as it relates to American women, from a
wholly outside, naïve perspective?
- With reservation, Nayir accompanies Katya to the Big Mix, a desegregated
lunch buffet open to families and friendly to unmarried couples. Inside,
despite an initial discomfort about the unveiled female diners, Nayir "felt
relief, mingled with surprise that a restaurant as modern as this one would
be filled with good people acting appropriately." What does this tell you
about Nayir? Do you think the experience changes him in any way? Why or why
not? What does this scene tell you about Saudi Arabia and its shifting
values in the modern age?
- On page 214, Katya takes issue with Nayir's belief that Nouf "had
everything," arguing that Nouf only "had everything her father let
her have." What is the difference? Outline both Nayir's and Katya's
perspectives on what might have happened to Nouf and explain where each is
coming from. Do you see Nouf as spoiled and ungrateful, as Nayir seems to,
or do you sympathize with her desperation, as Katya does? Explain your
- Compare and contrast the relationships between Muhammad and Nouf and
Ahmad and Katya. How would you characterize each? Do you agree with Nayir,
that Muhammad failed to protect Nouf because he was too busy spoiling her,
probably out of his own secret desire for her? How do Muhammad's
indiscretions stack up against Ahmad's? He similarly keeps Katya's secrets
as she breaks the law and otherwise behaves in what her father (and others)
might deem an inappropriate manner. Do you think these men are doing their
jobs? Why or why not?
- When did you first begin to suspect that Othman's interest in finding
out what happened to Nouf might be more than brotherly concern? What clues
were there that he was the father of Nouf's child?
- Discuss the interaction between Katya and her future in-laws. Friends
have told her that a woman should choose a husband based on his mother and
sisters. Why? Do you think Katya would ever have assimilated into the Shrawi
household? Why or why not? What does Othman's behavior in the coatroom on
page 226 indicate to Katya? Why do you think she bursts into tears after
- Discuss how Nayir's stereotypical "knowledge" of women limited his
theories to possible motives a man would have for kidnapping or killing Nouf.
Did you suspect she might have been killed for other reasons, or by a woman?
Why or why not?
- How does the author comment on certain aspects of conservative Islam,
such as the Saudi religious police and rules restricting women? Do you feel
that you know her opinion by the end of the novel? If so, what is it? If
not, why not? Did reading this novel at all affect your opinions of the
American lifestyle? Why or why not?
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