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The Nine Fantasies That Will Ruin Your Life

and The Eight Realities That Will Save You

by Dr Joy Browne

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The Nine Fantasies That Will Ruin Your Life by Dr Joy Browne
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    Oct 1998, 256 pages
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    Sep 1999, 255 pages

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I want you to get real! I want you to be willing to look at these nine fantasies that can ruin your life until you are willing to examine, adjust, and discard them. These fantasies are causing you to spend time and energy living in an imaginary world that will not allow you to be effective. These assumptions are pervasive, ubiquitous, and dangerous.
the big ugly nine fantasies concern...

  • Home: Functional families exist.
  • Perfection: Describes everybody...except me.
  • Money: Winning the lottery would free me.
  • Truth: It will set you free.
  • Sex: Men and women are from different planets.
  • Innocence: Ignorance is bliss.
  • Righteousness: Stick to your guns.
  • Fairness: Good always triumphs.
  • Love: Somewhere I have a soul mate.
  • These treacherous fantasies need to be dissected and expunged. I'm warning you up front that this process isn't easy, because these myths are deeply ingrained. They're also cleverly disguised as cute rather than malevolent creatures; one of the Seven Dwarfs rather than the Wicked Queen. Even a shiny red apple can turn out to be poisonous. Instead of becoming paranoid about apples, understand that the search for reality is a combination of detective work, excavation, and surgery.

    Use of this excerpt from The Nine Fantasies That Will Ruin Your Life and the Eight Realities That Will Save You by Dr. Joy Browne may be made only for purposes of promoting the book, with no changes, editing, or additions whatsoever, and must be accompanied by the following copyright notice: Copyright© 1998 by Dr. Joy Browne. All rights reserved.

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