Quiara reveres her mother. What is or was your relationship like with your mother?
Created: 01/06/22
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I'm envious of those who've had a good relationship with their mothers. I have very few good memories of time spent with my mom, and many, MANY more about the bad times. I'm grateful to her, because I know without a doubt that she sacrificed a LOT so my sister and I could have good lives, but I don't like her as a person.
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Quira's reverence for her mother evolved over time and I think that is the case for many of us as we grow and mature (hopefully) and come to appreciate the challenges our mothers faced. I think melanieb characterizes it perfectly when she describes it as complicated.
I did have a good relationship with my mother, although not without its speed bumps. As I have aged, I have definitely assimilated many of her talents, particularly in the area of hand crafts but have also picked up many of my father's such as his love for reading and self-development.
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My relationship with my mother was very special and genuine. My mother was a strong woman who encouraged me to experience life in the way I wanted. I recognize I am very fortunate in this regard. And as we both aged, we became closer than ever. I miss her every day.
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I loved my mother very much,but didn't appreciate her as much as I should have , until she was gone. So many things I wish I would have told her. She was a wonderful mother, sacrificing many things for me when I was growing up, and my two children, also, after I was grown.
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Love my mother so so much. But unfortunately she was a go along to get along, fade into the background, don’t make waves,and a peace at any price kind of approach to life. Not exactly stand tall and proud strength- mostly head down, fearful. I’ve had to teach myself to be strong, brave and be Myself.
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I would be interested in knowing how Quiara mothers her own children. In the book, she talked about sometimes not seeing her mother for days. Her mom kept secrets and instructed her through books, not conversation. Did that same style of parenting work with Gabi? Would Quiara trust it in raising her own children? On the other hand, I could also feel her pride in her mother, for all she had accomplished and done with her life and for others.
For the most part, I have a very close relationship with my mother. There have been bumps along the way- -for both of us. I feel like we are in a good space now. I can speak to her openly and honestly about MOST things. I think I had some pretty inflated opinions of my mom when I was younger. Now, I see her as the fallible person she is. Some days, this disappoints me. Other days, I'm so grateful for her humanness. Oddly, I think our relationship is better now that we live further away from one another.
My mom and I have a two and a half week cross country trip planned together for the summer. We will be visiting five different National Parks and sharing a tent! I already know what will annoy me on this journey, and I'm sure she does too! haha But I am so appreciative that we will have this time together, and know I will treasure our time- -good or bad- -for the rest of my life!
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i consider myself very lucky to have been the child of my mother. She was an only child and soon learn to be a mother to 3 children. I could always talk to her. I could always speak openly and honestly. It was important to her that I could do so, especially since her mother was not comfortable talking about personal issues. I so remember coming in late at night and sharing with her the highlights of the date. As she grew older and my father was gone, we spent many fun times together, traveling, crafting and discussing books and politics.
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My mother was a good mother, to the best of her abilities, but I don't remember feeling close to her. She was in her early 40's whenI was born, so by the time I can remember her as a child and later as a teenager, she seemed so old fashioned to me. When she died I felt loss; I'm still trying to understand if the loss I felt was of losing her or the sadness for the relationship we didn't have that I saw others having with their mother.
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