I think that being in a healthy relationship can help individuals reach their full potential, because part of who we are involves how we relate to others. I also think that it can be helpful, in order to find what one is looking for in a relationship and a partner, to be single for a time, and I don't think the author has really done that. Honestly, I found her book unconvincing and a little silly. People who want to be single should be single; there's no need to elevate singlehood to a plane of ultimate self-actualization, or find historic figures to justify one's status. I did not have the feeling that Bolick is all that comfortable in her own skin.