While I agree with the other readers that clearly "Nature" is a big factor, I think that it is how we interpret the "Nurture" aspect that also shapes us, and where we are in our lives when we experience a specific event. For example, my brother and I were raised abroad for several years in elementary school, but I was 3 years older than he. I believe that my world view is a bit broader than his because I was older at the time and can remember things more clearly. I also had a little more life experience than he did (I know, laughable at a young age) and so that shaped my reactions to the situation. I think that Jack and Dylan were in different facets of their lives when their mom came back from the dead as it were. One just starting college - sowing oats, living in a group house and not in a serious relationship, while the other was past that - in a serious relationship and settling into adulthood. Of course that would frame their response to the new family dynamic.