If David were your husband, would you ever offer him a similar plan? Or is the idea of an open relationship too difficult for you to imagine putting into action?

Once she unexpectedly returns, it doesn't take long for Kate to realize that David is struggling with the loss of Jane. If David were your husband, would you ever offer him a similar plan? Or is the idea of an open relationship too difficult for you to imagine putting into action?

Frankly, having a relationship like this in my life would be way too weird for me. The idea of it is even uncomfortable.

I would not consider it. Someone would feel slighted or jealous no matter how hard you tried to be fair.

No I would not. It would be too difficult for me. If I was Kate I would have perhaps told him to get a divorce be happy with Jane and I would be happy catching up with my sons, my friends and other family members.

There is no way that I think I could go through that. I take my vows very seriously. Plus we have kids and I didn't want my children to think that this type of arrangement is okay.

There's no way I'd be willing to share my husband with another woman. I'd feel like I was constantly being compared to her, and I'd wonder if he'd eventually tire of me and just stay with her. I'd feel threatened.

2 children may be great friends and play well together, but when the 3rd child is introduced, it is not long before someone feels left out or left behind. I believe it is the same with adults- when a third person is added, someone is going to be slightly less than the others. Marriage is a commitment of explicit trust and that there is one other person that will stand with only you in difficulties and triumph. When David chose Jane because of a "scheduling" conflict, that trust was disolved (surely before that, but definitely there as a point of impact). So, no, I would not allow myself to be used or dismissed in such a way.

I would never offer such a plan to my husband. I think such an arrangement shortchanges each of the participants. I would think couples therapy for David and Kate would put the situation in perspective for both of them so they could determine whether to continue as a couple or divorce and David could proceed with his life with Jane. As it is, Kate's proposed solution is based on guilt and fear--guilt that she "left" her family for years while her disease overtook her life and fear that she will relapse and David will be left alone. These are not the best emotions for making sound decisions about the rest of one's life.