Nancy believes that "marriage is such a dreadful gamble." What do you suppose she means? Do you agree with her assessment?
Created: 01/12/23
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I do agree with Nancy that marriage can be a gamble. People are complex and marriage can nourish growth or inhibit it There are many variables in marriage even in today's society. During the time of this novel marriages could often be confined with fewer options for women to support themselves and thrive if they make the choice to divorce. A strong marriage has to survive the test of time and so many things that cannot be controlled.
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Yes, agreeing to marry someone is taking a big chance. You may think you know and love someone, but do you really? Even if you do, life throws things at us that can change a person, challenge a person, and drive a wedge between them. You have to take the chance that a we grow and change we do so in ways that make us want to still be together.
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Absolutely. You really don't know how someone is until you are married to them. Reactions to life events for an individual or for a couple can't be tested until they actually happen. Marriage responsibilities can be a burden to some and there are those who only want the privileges and security without the responsibilities. It is definitely a crap shoot!
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Marriage is a huge gamble. One don't really know someone until that great commitment is made. Some individuals don't reveal their true selves until they are married. You can't hide yourself forever! Fortunately, many of us find someone who is truly committed and willing to preserve what one has.
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Haha - yes, one that people don't fully understand when in the thrall of their hormones! Probably why nearly half of them fail. But it's interesting that, despite the ups and downs of Nancy's marriage, they seemed to find a groove over time which I found encouraging.
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I agree with Gabi, a gamble , yes but not dreadful ! Leaving your home is a gamble everyday but that does not mean you should say home! Not if you have love to begin with. It is work to be sure, but it should be loving work. You never do know for sure what will come your way, but I think too many people think marriage is like a movie, all sweetness and light. But life is not like that . And you have to be willing to work at it.
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Yes marriage is a gamble. It requires much of both partners and hopefully it brings both love and satisfaction. Nancy lived in a different time with different expectations and mores. Ones social status and familial expectations often determined one’s partner. The use of the word gamble may seem extreme but I think it reflects the world these women inhabited.
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Yes - it is a gamble, but not a dreadful one. I think that’s why so many younger people are living with their partners before marriage to see if it “doable.” Sadly, by taking this approach they are not fully committed to working through the ups and downs that come with married life. True love is what makes you give a 100% every single day (between the two of you - some days one gives more). A worthwhile gamble if there is truly love.
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Partnering up with someone is always a gamble, whether it's marriage or going on a trip with someone. There's a lot involved - a give and take, figuring out what someone's strengths and weaknesses are, figuring out how to work together instead of going about life on one's own. Marriage to someone is particularly risky since there's no easy out in most cases, and the longer you're together the harder it is break the bond. Even if you know someone really well, once you're living together 24/7 there's a different dynamic.
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Marriage is a gamble. Let's face it, do we really know the person you are going to marry until you actually live with them for a while? It can be a beautiful relationship and continue to grow great and it can be mediocre or horrible Marriage is a give and take situation. It can be beautiful and wonderful but it takes cooperation on both parts.
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