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Can you disapprove of a person without disapproving of their upbringing?

Created: 04/30/21

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davinamw

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Can you disapprove of a person without disapproving of their upbringing?

Nora asks, when Daniel suggests he disapproves of her upbringing and not of her, "Aren't they the same?" What do you think? Can you disapprove of a person without disapproving of their upbringing?


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dianac

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Yes. Sometimes people are not at all the product of their upbringing.


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PKH

Join Date: 01/29/21

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Yes. Your upbringing doesn't always dictate how you will turn out as an adult.


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Laura C

Join Date: 04/30/21

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

I agree with dianac and PKH. Free will and upbringing sometimes do not align.


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catherynez

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

I agree. Your upbringing doesn’t always predict your behavior as an adult.


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laurap

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Agree with all of the above.


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melissa c.

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

I also agree with everyone. However, I have found while perhaps not obvious at first, there are often aspects of one's upbringing that impact a person's behavior.


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carriem

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

I agree with everyone that your upbringing does dictate how you will behave as an adult.


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Jessica F

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Absolutely!


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LWReads

Join Date: 08/09/18

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Of course. You don’t need to know anything about a person’s upbringing to disapprove of them or dislike them. A better question would be “Can you APPROVE of a person in spite of their upbringing? Or socioeconomic background? Or skin color? Or race? Etc.”


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vivianh

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Absolutely. One can look at any multi child family and observe that each person, given the same love, opportunity, education, and upbringing may take totally different paths. It is an age old question...nature vs. nurture. Nature generally trumps nurture. Free will. Independent thought. How one is raised is just one factor in how one behaves as an adult. And one can be raised in horrible circumstances and become extraordinary adults by virtue of one’s own dedication, internal fortitude, and attitudes.


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katherinep

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Darn right you can--there are some people I've met in my 78 years who have had terrific upbringings--good homes with lots of love and creature comforts, education and moral and ethical example--who have turned out to be the worst cheats, liars, or in other ways untrustworthy creatures for whom I have little regard or approval. You train 'em and send 'em out into the world. What they do after that has no bearing good or bad on what you did. They are their own beings and will make choices that may have no basis in what they were taught


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paulak

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Sure and the reverse is true. You can disprove upbringing but not the person.


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MarieA

Join Date: 10/12/11

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Absolutely--one's upbringing does not always dictate one's actions.


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terriej

Join Date: 07/28/11

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Yes! Upbringing doesn't guarantee how a person will turn out.


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AmberH

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

I don't think someone has full control over their upbringing.


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deeh

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Yes. One's upbringing does not always govern the choices they make in life.


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Loveslife

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

Yes-I believe you can disapprove of a person without disapproving of their upbringing. There are many examples where people transcended their upbringing and became a person free of those influences-either to the benefit or detriment of that person. A person cannot choose where or to what family they are born in-


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Sunflowersky1982

Join Date: 10/09/19

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

I'd like to believe people should be judged based on their character and actions, not on their upbringing. Upbringing does play a big part of your character development (nurture/ environment), but it doesn't always define who you are.


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christinec

Join Date: 03/09/20

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RE: Can you disapprove of a person ...

As a child, your upbringing is not within your control - how could you hold that against someone? You can however disapprove of the adult’s behavior - upbringing is not an excuse for bad behavior - you can be sympathetic and understanding to that adult but still not approve


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