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Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

Created: 04/13/15

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kimk

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Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?


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reene

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I feel two unrelated women can develop a bond that is deeper than that of sisters. So much will depend on the sister's ability to maintain a relationship. For one reason or another one sister might be unable to bond with another, in which case a friend or cousin might fill the roll of sister.


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rebajane

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I am close to my sisters but I also have a friend that is just as close. In fact, I have confided more in her in the past since my sisters tend to have similar struggles since we grew up together.


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Retired Reader, NE

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

Yes, given the right circumstances unrelated women can truly close. It all depends on geography and time.


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bettyt

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

I definitely think it is possible. You can choose your friends and thus not have the same "baggage" families often have. Blood sisters, especially if several years apart in age and many physical miles apart, may have very little closeness. My sisters are 14+ years older than me. We have not lived near each other for over 40 years. Thus, I feel much closer to friends nearer my age and that I lived around longer than I do to my sisters.


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bettyt

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With age, I have begun calling my sisters from tie to time just to check on them. Also to learn more about my parents as they died some time ago and I really know little about my family's life. No one said much as long as my parents were alive. I realized this change when I read in on page 5, "...bumping up our phone calls from birthday-and-holiday-only to an out-of-the ordinary call." With my friends, I may call more a couple of times a day.


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caroln

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

i have been lucky enough to have experienced twice in my life - women of my approximate age that were so much more closer than any sister could be. I lost one to a lung disease six years ago and the other is a victim of early dementia. With good friends we can choose each other, find personalities that fit each other like a puzzle and that we did. My sister, only 3 years younger, is a good person - we just don't think the same way about many things and often I find myself stepping back rather than stepping up with my opinions - less family conflict. Yet I know several women who have a wonderful and deep relationship with their sisters. I think its based on PERSONALITIES, simple as that!


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reene

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Caroin Sorry for your losses, but beautifully stated. It is all personality


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Shelli43

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

Yes. I have a best friend who is my Sister at heart for the past 22 years! We compliment the others differences and are close enough to know the others needs; a phone call, or encouragement, or a listening ear! I've showed up to her place to find her sick in bed and kids crying and I came at just the right time. It's a bond that even tho we don't visit each others homes every day or talk all the time, is always there. I never had a biological sister but I did have two girls (and two boys) of my own. And they are now married and are parents and the theme in both of the nurseries is same, they bought same outfits for their boys and more often then not, they send me same gifts! Conclusion: The connection is so amazing tho they live two or three states apart! But the similarities to them and my best friend and I are much the same.


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kate

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

I agree with the other readers who feel like you can be just as close, if not closer to a friend or sister at heart.So much of a relationship depends on two personalities meshing. That does not always happen just because you are in the same family or blood related. When you find that person, it truly is a relationship to cherish!


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lynnw

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I have a longtime friend that I am closer to than my sister. Just because you share a set of parents does not mean that you will share the same values and interests. I love my sister, but my friend is the person I trust with everything.


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pennyp

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

I have never had a sister but have a very close friend. I have known some sisters that had a special bond and a few that barely spoke. In some way, not having a familial tie, competition might be lessened.


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JAKL1

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

Yes, I also think you can be close to an unrelated person and can become as close as sisters.


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Lindsay

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

I agree with what JAKL1 and others have said--you don't have to have blood relations to form deep bonds. I don't have any sisters but I have a couple best friends who are like sisters to me. I know many women who have sisters who aren't very close. So, I think it can go either way.


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mal

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Def two unrelated women can become as close as sisters, I am proof. I have two besties I am close with, I have a sister I am by no means close with. Yes, it is possible. Blood ties does not constitute closeness.


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kathleenb

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

I loved the lines "There was a saying for a dear female friend you held as close as a relative. Sister of heart." I think the sister of heart can actually be closer than your biological sister. I have never had a close relationship with any of my siblings but since four of us have died we three have gotten slightly closer. But I have had friends that I have poured my heart out to. So my answer is sisters don't always have a closer bond.


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bettyt

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

I think Rachel and Jenn were probably as close as sisters.


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dianes

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

I have a few friends that I am so close to, they are like my sisters. In fact, since they live closer I seem to share more with them. BUT, my two sisters will always have my heart.


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maggiew

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

Absolutely. I have a "friend of the heart". We met at work and for 15 years now we have had a close bond through many life changes. We certainly have no secrets from one another and we support one another through whatever comes along. How many late nights over a bottle of wine have we shared! She and I are closer to one another than we are to our own sisters.


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melanieg

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RE: Do you think two unrelated women can truly become as close as sisters, or will sisters always have a closer bond?

Well, given my sister and I most definitely do not have a close bond, and I have a friend who I have an extremely close bond with, yes, absolutely!


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