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We Must Not Think of Ourselves

by Lauren Grodstein

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A heart-wrenching story of love and defiance set in the Warsaw Ghetto, based on the actual archives kept by those determined to have their stories survive World War II

A Read with Jenna Book Club Pick and named a Best Book of 2023 by Kirkus Reviews (Best Fiction Books of the Year & Best Historical Fiction of 2023)

On a November day in 1940, Adam Paskow becomes a prisoner in the Warsaw Ghetto, where the Jews of the city are cut off from their former lives and held captive by Nazi guards, and await an uncertain fate. Weeks later, he is approached by a mysterious figure with a surprising request: Will he join a secret group of archivists working to preserve the truth of what is happening inside these walls? Adam agrees and begins taking testimonies from his students, friends, and neighbors. He learns about their childhoods and their daydreams, their passions and their fears, their desperate strategies for safety and survival. The stories form a portrait of endurance in a world where no choices are good ones.

One of the people Adam interviews is his flatmate Sala Wiskoff, who is stoic, determined, and funny—and married with two children. Over the months of their confinement, in the presence of her family, Adam and Sala fall in love. As they desperately carve out intimacy, their relationship feels both impossible and vital, their connection keeping them alive. But when Adam discovers a possible escape from the Ghetto, he is faced with an unbearable choice: Whom can he save, and at what cost?

Inspired by the testimony-gathering project with the code name Oneg Shabbat, New York Times bestselling author Lauren Grodstein draws readers into the lives of people living on the edge. Told with immediacy and heart, We Must Not Think of Ourselves is a piercing story of love, determination, and sacrifice for the many fans of literary World War II fiction such as Kristin Harmel's The Book of Lost Names and Lauren Fox's Send for Me.

Please be aware that this discussion guide will contain spoilers!
  1. Why did Emanuel Ringelblum create the Oneg Shabbat project? How did the project's goals change as the novel progressed?
  2. Why do you think more people didn't try to escape from the ghetto?
  3. Everything in the ghetto is a trade. What are some of the various economic systems that keep the Jews alive?
  4. In what ways are the children at the heart of ghetto life?
  5. What is Szifra's attitude toward her brothers? Why doesn't she abandon them?
  6. Although Adam never had children of his own, he takes on various paternal roles throughout the novel. What kind of father figure is he to Szifra? To her brothers? To Sala's boys? What is he attempting to teach them through poetry?
  7. What kind of man do you think Nowak, the guard who helped Adam, ...
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"[A] delicate, warm account of a brutal, cold time, grounded in humanity, small details, and unwavering clarity." ―Kirkus Reviews (starred review)

"Grodstein makes her persecuted characters achingly human... This will stay with readers." ―Publishers Weekly

"Grodstein brings to life a critical piece of history with her strong sense of place and complex characters... [The Oneg Shabbat archive] is represented beautifully in Grodstein's first historical novel, supported by her intensive research and the book's dynamic relationships that show the value of everyday intimacies. Recommended for readers who enjoy stories from all time periods about the extraordinary actions of ordinary people." ―Library Journal

"[A] moving chronicle, a worthy tribute to those who fought to survive the unthinkable." ―Booklist

"This heart-wrenching tale explores love, defiance, and sacrifice in the face of unimaginable circumstances, making it a compelling addition to the literary World War II fiction genre." ―Beyond The Bookends

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This book teaches us not to be self-centered but caring about others too.

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Lauren Grodstein Author Biography

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Lauren Grodstein is the author of Our Short History, The Washington Post Book of the Year The Explanation for Everything, and the New York Times-bestselling A Friend of the Family, among other works. Her stories, essays, and articles have appeared in various literary magazines and anthologies, and have been translated into French, German, Chinese, and Italian, among other languages. Her work has also appeared in Elle, The New York Times, Refinery29, Salon.com, Barrelhouse, Post Road, and The Washington Post. She is a professor of English at Rutgers University-Camden, where she teaches in the MFA program in creative writing.

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