Reading Guide Questions
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- In Save Me explores the mother and child relationship, at its heart. What do you think defines a mother? How is a mother and child relationship different than any other relationship? Look at other forms of culture, like art, for example. How many depictions are there of mother and child? And how many of father and child? Are we discriminating
against fathers, or diminishing them, by all this talk of the mother-child bond? And by doing so, do we create a self-fulfilling prophecy?
- In Save Me, Melly is the victim of bullying because of a birthmark on her face. Do you think bullying is
different today than years ago? Do you think that the bullying is getting worse, or arewe just hearing more about it because of the Internet? What do you think parents
and schools should do to help curb bullying? What kind of punishment do you think is appropriate for the child who is doing the bullying? What about those who watch and say nothing? Are they, or arent they, equally as culpable? Do you think that school programs and curricula
that build up self-esteem and a sense of community
will really make a difference?
- Rose experienced her own bullying at the hands of the angry parents, which gave her a new perspective on what Melly was going through. Do you have any experience with bullying between adults? In what ways are adults better equipped to deal with bullying than children? What impact can bullying have on adults, and what can adults do if they are faced with a bully? What impact does adult bullying have on children?
- Rose steps in to defend Melly against her bully. Do you think it was a good idea? Why or why not? How do you think a parents involvement hurts or helps the situation?
At what point do you think parents need to involve themselves in the situation? What steps would you take to help your child if he or she was being bullied, and how far would you be willing to go?
- What impact do you think a physical blemish has on a child, and how do you think it affects his or her identity, family relationships, and contact with the outside world? Take it a step further: What about physical disabilty, like a child in a wheelchair?
Or learning challenges, that arent so visible? Or how about discriminations based on race, religion,
or sexual orientation? Mellys father reacted very badly to Mellys birthmark. What did his reaction
make you feel about him?
- Many of Lisas books center on single mothers or blended families. Do you think the love of one great parent is enough to sustain a child through life? Does it take a husband, too? Or a village?
- As Rose found out, volunteering comes with risks. The book makes clear that this is a problem in the law of many states, maybe even where you live. What do you think of the laws in terms of protecting
those who volunteer their time? What changes, if any, would you make to the Good Samaritan laws to protect volunteers?
- How did you feel about Rose keeping her secret past from Leo? Did you understand her reasoning? Did you agree or disagree with it? What impact do you think Roses past will have on her marriage as she moves forward? Do you think she will ever really be able to escape what happened? Will he forgive her for not telling him? How do secrets impact intimacy in our lives?
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- Rose was called a helicopterparent, a term often used in todays society with a negative connotation.
What separates helicopter parenting from good parenting? What kind of parent do you think Rose was? What mistakes do you think she made? Do you think she was a good mother? Do you think she favors Melly or the baby? Or treats them equally?
- How did you feel about Amanda in the beginning of the book? Did your opinion of her change by the end of the book? What do you think causes children to be bullies? Under what circumstances would you ever feel bad for the bully? In punishing
a bully, do you think his or her personal circumstances
should be taken into account?
- What did you think of Roses lawyers strategy? Did you agree or disagree with it? Why or why not? Do you think they were just passing the blame, or do you think the school had a responsibility
in what happened? Do you think that
litigation is another form of bullying? Do you know anybody who is sue-happy?
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