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About This Book
Isabel, Emma, Rudy and Lee are four Washington, D.C. women of different ages,
from very different backgrounds, who share an unbreakable bond. They've named
themselves "The Saving Graces" after Grace, a mutt they accidentally hit with
their car, then rescued. For ten years the women have met weekly to eat, chat,
and shore each other up in the face of anything life can dish out.
As The Saving Graces begins, each woman is on the cusp of a major
challenge: Emma will fall into tormented love with a married man; Rudy's
controlling husband will close in on her just as she's making progress
overcoming her troubled past; Lee will be unable to conceive a baby; and
Isabel's cancer will relapse. It's Isabel's illness that draws the four women
together more tightly than ever and takes their friendship, love, and courage to
Told from four different perspectives, The Saving Graces is a
captivating, complex story, and a heartfelt tribute to the beauty of female
Questions for Discussion
Which Grace do you relate to most, and why? What do you define as
"grace"? Where do you find it in your life?
Why do you think the author starts and ends the story from Emma's point
of view? Would you consider Emma the main character?
When Lee is describing Isabel for the first time, she says, "Some people
are born knowing things the rest of us spend our lives trying to learn."
What kind of things do you think she's talking about? Do you agree with Lee?
What do you think Isabel had, or knew, that the other Graces didn't?
The night Emma finds out that Mick Draco is married, she describes men
as "speed bumps ... aggravating distractions scattered along life's
otherwise pretty nice highway," and also says that good women are easier to
find. Do you think she really believes this? Have you ever felt the way Emma
says she does? Do you think men feel that way about women -- that, on the
whole, men are the better sex -- or that this a uniquely feminine
At one point, Rudy says about Curtis, "I tried not loving him -- just
for a second; an experiment. To my horror, it worked." What does she mean by
this? That her love for him isn't real? What do you think of Rudy and
Curtis' relationship, overall? How did your feelings change about him over
the course of the book? When he told Rudy he has leukemia, did you believe
him? What do you think Rudy's dream means?
There's a remarkably small amount of jealousy and possessiveness among
the Graces. Do you think this is realistic? Have you had the same
experiences with your women friends?
When you tally it up among the four of them, the Graces experience just
about every tragedy known to womankind -- cancer, infidelity, alcoholism and
drug abuse, mental illness, infertility, and devastating heartbreak, to name
a few. Do you think the author has woven these themes in realistically, or
does it feel contrived? Would you say this group of women experiences more
than their share of suffering? What about joy?
The only time the idea of romantic love between women comes up in the
book is via Jenny, Henry's lesbian plumber mom. Why do you think the author
wrote Jenny into the story? What purpose does she serve? Do you think Jenny
really assumes The Saving Graces is founded on the same basic ideas
as the women's group/commune she belonged to in the late '70s? Is it? If so,
how is it the same, and how is it different?
Have you ever belonged to a formal group like The Saving Graces? Do you
think it's difficult to form close friendships with women later in life,
after school and other settings? How do you think friendships among women
change as they age?
At one point, Emma describes Isabel as her "mentor, although neither of
us would ever say that out loud, and certainly we'd never use that word." Do
you think that's an accurate way to describe their relationship?
What about mothering -- is Isabel the mother figure in The Saving
Graces? Or is Lee? Do you think any one member takes more than she
gives, or is it all pretty equal?
Why do you think Lee holds out for so long trying to have her own baby?
Do you think she's justified in feeling so angry and desperate, especially
when she has a loving husband, a good job, a nice home -- and other people
have much bigger problems, like her friend Isabel, who's dying? How do you
think Lee's experience with infertility affects her reactions to what's
going on with Isabel?
Isabel says "sometimes kindness is as excruciating as cruelty." What do
you think she means by that? Do you agree with her?
Why do you think the author wrote in Isabel's encounter with Sheldon
Herman, the old man on the bench?
When Isabel and Kirby sleep together for the first time, she's able to
forget for a moment that she's dying -- then abruptly remembers again. Do
you think that sex and death are related in any way?
What do you think of the scene where the Graces take on Curtis? Is it
realistic? Is it everybody's fantasy, in some way, to have their best
friends there for them in the hardest moments? Can you really have help with
these things, or do you need to face them alone?
Do you think Emma and Mick will make it as a couple? Or were they
brought together by the desire for something they couldn't have, and, now
that they have it, their passion will be diminished?
Which of the Graces do you think grew the most over the course of the
book, and in what ways?
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