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For nine years, Babe keeps a terrible secret. How much of a toll do you think it takes on her? Does her hardscrabble background make her tougher than Grace and Millie in the face of adversity?
In the post WWII era, combat fatigue, or what we now call Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, was a dark secret. There was little therapy, and no support groups existed. Do you think in that era Babe could have found better ways to cope with Claudes problems? Should she have insisted they have a child? How much do you think she regrets not having one? Would you have blamed her if she left him?
Grace and Millie have diametrically opposite reactions to losing their husbands, and both think they are trying to protect their children. Do you think they really believed that or were they merely justifying their own predilections? What effect does Graces behavior have on her daughter Amy? What does Millies have on her son Jack?
Is Grace really so devoted to Charlies memory or is she afraid of a new relationship? What does her breakdown in the front yard say about her feelings toward her late husband and herself?
Is Millie callous or a fierce survivor? Do you see her as a manipulative wife and mother or a woman trying to protect her family?
In an era that regarded misfortune as something to be ashamed of and silent suffering as a virtue, all three women keep secrets from husbands, children, and one another. Our own era believes in openness as a cure, or at least a form of solace. Do you think Babe, Grace, and Millie would have had an easier time of it if they had shared their problems and unhappiness?
Graces father-in-law King often behaves badly, resenting and punishing vets who returned from the war. Can you sympathize with his heartbreak and loss nonetheless? What does the sexual advice he gives Grace say about the mores and beliefs of the era?
The psychiatrist tells Grace the solution to her problem is a husband. Were you surprised at how hidebound America was at the time or do you think in many ways - race, religion, gender, sex -- we have not changed as much as we think?
How do you interpret the triangle of Grace, Mac, and Morris? Do you think they would behave differently today? What would you have done in Graces place after she married Morris?
This is a book about three women who are friends from childhood, but their friendship is occasionally rocky. Do you think the recent spate of books and movies about womens friendship romanticize the relationship as we used to romanticize men-women relationships?
Babe was a poor girl who married into the middle class. Both of Graces husbands had plenty of money. After the war, Millies husband Al makes a small fortune. Yet their lives remain in many way similar. They have cleaning women but not staffs of maids, nannies, and drivers. They shop, but not excessively. What do you think this says about the beginning of the most prosperous period in Americas history and our own era?
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