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In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

Created: 02/24/12

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Posted Feb. 24, 2012 Go to Top | Bottom | link | alert
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In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

Maddie’s decision to join Lane in Manzanar and give up her dreams of Juliard is surprising or predictable, depending on your point of view. In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?


Posted Feb. 27, 2012 Go to Top | Bottom | link | alert
dorothyt

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RE: In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

In today's world people are willing and able to accommodate the needs and desires of both persons in a relationship. In this case, for example, marriage might have been put off until Maddie finished her work at Julliard. I just don't think there is a one-size-fits-all answer to this.


Posted Feb. 27, 2012 Go to Top | Bottom | link | alert
sarahd

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RE: In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

This is a tricky question because it depends on the people and the circumstances. I'm a relationship person, so tend to think that relationships should take center stage in a person's life, but I know plenty of people who are career-oriented and feel the opposite - or at least see a way to combine the two in satisfactory ways. I was sad to see Maddie choose Lane over Julliard in some ways because she had spent her entire life working towards this goal and it was so wrapped up in the tragedy with her father; however, I understand that when you love someone and want to be with them, life-long goals can take on a different priorities.


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I don't think its an 'either/or discussion - if two people truly love each other, this doesn't have to be a choice. They will both work together to make sure that they have a good relationship as well as satisfying careers.


Posted Mar. 06, 2012 Go to Top | Bottom | link | alert
alice

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RE: In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

I think in today's world with e-mail, Skype and so many airplane flights available, it is much easier to have long distance relationships and have both a career and a relationship. I do not say it would be easy though but you can do both.


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judym

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RE: In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

I think it is always a balance between the two. In a solid relationship there should be the ability if need be by either party to put career in the forefront. When this is important, it can then keep the relationship strong.


Posted Mar. 11, 2012 Go to Top | Bottom | link | alert
johnw

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RE: In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

think in a healthy relationship if you are able to keep balance between your career and your relationship it is possible. The basis for success is a healthy relationship if it is strong then the relationship can survive and perhaps thrive if one of the two individuals puts their career first. the two. Historically its been more acceptable by society if its the man that places his career first, but that is changing.


Posted Mar. 12, 2012 Go to Top | Bottom | link | alert
rachelb

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RE: In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

It's easier now with technology to compromise on this, but when career and relationships are directly opposed (child has a concert, and you're asked to take a big client to dinner), you have to choose. For Maddie, Julliard and music were a shelter for her, and it was something she could control when everything around her was completely out of control. She worked hard and loved music, but Lane was her passion. Her music could never love her back, and love/relationship is what she really needed. You can't serve two masters. It's fine to both have a career and be in a relationship, and those who have the luxury of this working out for them are very lucky. However, most of the time there will come a time when you have to be clear and honest about which one you are truly passionate about. The problem I encounter often is that contemporary society is very "have cake and eat it, too", and no one feels like they should have to be the one to bend. Hopefully, I'm making sense! Such a complicated issue to try and sum up!


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sylviaj

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RE: In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

I believe career should be second to relationships and family because when people die they aren't going to say I wish I would have spent more time at the office but they will say I wish I had spent more time with my loved ones. Life is fleeting.


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RE: In general, do you think career should take second place to relationships, or vice versa?

Absolutely agree with sylvia career should always take 2nd place to family!


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