lisag I had to chuckle at your ways of getting alone time. As I thought about it I realized how often I use various ruses to get alone. As I live close to my children as well as the grands which are teenage to toddler there are lots of family events where the " let's go to lunch or let's stop at the mall come up". Since I am not fond of eating out and hate shopping and have usually by this time had my fill of together I almost always make an excuse. Saying the I am tired or I am not hungry or my feet need a rest usually works even if none of them is really true. At least I can get alone in my car and go home to my house.